No Cross Word Has Ever Been Rewarded With A Smile
No Punch Has Ever Been Received With Gratitude
Spare the rod and spoil the child. Of course this is the Christian way of
raising a child. The belief is that you
instill a discipline into a child that will cause a Pavlovian response when
confronted with making a decision that might be contrary to the will of
others. In effect mind control. Now making the point that this is not
necessary will have many condemning such words as heresy or stupidity. But I say to you that in nature there is
always a way that opposes conventional wisdom (and by conventional I mean a
standard that we have adopted through tradition rather than through learning).
A perfect example of this is the old way of training horses
to be bridled and sadled. In the past
(even as recent as 20 years ago) a horse trainer would implement ropes to tie
up a horse, whips to discipline a horse and spurs to command a horse to his
will.
But then came along a man, then a boy, who would sit in
nature and watch the horses in their natural habitat. He would document all of their interactions
and learn how they communicate with each other and from that he developed a
process where the ropes, spurs and whips were no longer needed. He communicated with the horses using their
own language. With much success, John
Lyons is now noted as being one of the tops in the field of horse
training. No beating, no coarse
instruction, but teaching by establishing trust rather than fear.
“But Humans are different!”
Yes, and no. We have
assumed, that because of tradition, the necessary way to bring up a child is through discipline and
punishment, but we are just touching the surface of our abilities to do it
differently. We are just now bothering
to take the time to learn the true language of a baby, tot, or young adult. We have raised generations in violence and
disguised it as discipline.
Violence will not end violence. It will not bring about peace. That can only be done with compassion and
understanding through open communication.
We must learn Old ways to achieve New and different results.
Glorifying and extolling violence through tradition will
just further the course we are on.
Find love, compassion, and healing.
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